Most things break, including hearts. The lessons of life amount not to wisdom, but to scar tissue and callus.
– Wallace Stegner, The Spectator Bird
What shall we talk about today? 🤔🤔
My birthday is in a couple of days (next week Friday) and I got an early birthday present yesterday (totally unexpected). Birthdays for me are rest days, just stay indoors and receive calls and messages and be thankful. But maybe this birthday will be different, just maybe. I feel so because of the early gift (never has it happened before).
I’ve actually had zero inspiration this week and last so you can guess my excitement to post today because musing Friday (if you can’t well let me tell you, zero, none). But I promised to I have to deliver (yay).
I’ve read two books recently – The Screwtape Letters, C S Lewis and Handle with care, Jodi Picoult. You probably won’t easily find the second but the first should be easy to find online (ebook) and also it has an audiobook which made reading the literature perfect.
‘Handle with care’ brought about so many emotions especially after I had already judged the character based on the information given at the summary behind. After going through a couple of chapters, I totally understood a lot of things and found myself rooting for her to win the case.
Okay, to today’s topic – New Year Resolutions. I read something here and I guess it inspired the topic.
With every new year we find ourselves ready to conquer the year with grand plans and honestly this is good and I think everyone should do it, set achievable goals. During my childhood days and teenage years I would come up with a list of 10 things I wanted to do in that year and I found myself writing it on the 1st of January every year. As I grew up that didn’t change, only the list did (it got shorter). I wonder why.
Before we get lost in the holiday, before Christmas spirit gets really high and we are on whatever cloud, let’s write what we want to achieve in the coming year. I’m not saying you can’t write a realistic list then, I’m just saying that we should use this time to really think about what we want for the coming year, write goals that are achievable. I’m not saying don’t set big goals, I’m saying let them be realistic. The year’s resolution is what you hope you to achieve in that year, not in a couple of years time, that particular year.
Do not set yourself up for disappointment if you’re like me and going to check that list at the end of the year. I don’t want us feeling like we failed in things we knew were unrealistic but we were hopeful. I want us to look at the list at the end of the year filled with pride that we did it. I want us to be accomplished in our set goals.
The summary of this is have/set big resolutions but let them be realistic.
What are your thoughts on new year resolutions and when do you think is the right time to write them.
And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth
– Raymond Carver, ‘Late Fragment’
xoxo your favorite girl,