I saw this question one of them days going on Twitter and felt it should be talked about.
FYI, I’m not talking about the parent-child kiss or the peck on the cheeks. Talking of the kissing in relationships outside marriage, French kissing and the likes. This post is for unmarried people and we are considering this matter based on the fact that we should not ‘ideally’ be having premarital sex.
This is more a collaboration with my friend, Damola A. We went on about asking people we know and got replies of no, yes and I don’t know. We decided to make this open for discussion here and below are some replies, some with reasons and some without.
It’s also going to be a 2 part series which we will continue next week by looking at what y’all think then telling you what we believe.
‘This topic has been a very polarizing one amongst Christians. Now my opinion: It is not a sin,but it does have the power to lead one to sexual sin, and that’s why there always have to be set boundaries with your partner. Boundaries like, No kissing when you are both alone in either of your homes with no one to hold you accountable e.t.c. Ultimately if I am in a relationship and I think that kissing my boyfriend, fiancee, can lead to our both having sex, then with his agreement, we might choose to forego that particular pleasure till we are married. Anything in this world can lead to or become a sin, even food, and that’s why the bible always gives us boundaries and as followers of Christ, and by His grace, we should always live Every aspect of our lives to His glory..’
‘I think it largely depends on the convictions of the two people involved. It’s easy to categorically say Ehn, it’s intimacy and all, but I honestly do believe it’s not straightforward.
People are raised differently, and so that influences how they see it.
Bottom line: I don’t know’
‘I think it’s immoral
Why kissing/sex is an expression of love is too mysterious to me
If I like you, WHY do I have to kiss you to show that I do?’
‘A lot of kissing went on in the old testament through the new so….
But really. What’s not a sin?’
It depends on what happens after‘
‘At one programme I attended like that, the Pastor said that Kissing is application upstairs for permission downstairs if you get what I mean.
And I guess from hearsay, kissing someone almost always leads to something which is fornication.
Nowwwww, we are in an era where people express love differently eg 5 languages of love. I think all in all set boundaries in your relationship. If you kiss your boyfriend and you both make sure that it doesn’t go beyond that, you’re good to go.’
People argue about the words not explicitly written in the bible and I’d really like for us to look at with as Christians.
‘What kind of kiss? Is it like peck or French kiss? 😂
My dear I think it is.’
‘Kissing isn’t a sin in itself, but it’s a gateway to one.
Yes. Like you can kiss innocently, your child, parents, friends, but when the kiss is getting you aroused and thoughts begin to enter your head, yeah, that’s a sin even if you don’t get to act on those thoughts’
‘No it’s not
Because the bible never condemned kissing
But if it’ll lead you to sin, then you should desist from it’
‘Can I just point out that before you ask “is kissing a sin”, you’ve already considered it being a sin and I’d like to say that already answers the question. If you have to ask if something is a sin then yes please it’s a sin.
(And I like kissing a lot 😭😭😭)’
To cut d long story short…
Yes. It kinda is
Well many describe it as ‘inappropriate’, and something meant strictly for spouses only.’
‘It’s not a sin
It’s just an entryway to what could be considered a sin
That’s why it’s not exactly advisable’
‘This is not an issue if I am being honest, all unrighteousness is sin. That’s all’
‘I don’t think it is sin at all, what are you really doing except exchanging saliva(for those who do not know how to kiss properly)’
I don’t think kissing is a sin, scriptures has it written no where that thou shall not kiss, but kissing is a very sensitive activity that can easily lead to sex, so my point is if kissing will cause you to do something that isn’t praiseworthy, why kiss?’
‘Well I love to kiss, but sometimes I think it is a sin, because I love my boyfriend so my mind is not really pure, it is somewhat lustful..lol, I don’t know jare but it will be hard to stop since I am not doing anything else’
‘Hmmn, there are differences o, sometimes when I kiss..I think I have committed a sin because it was so deep, but other times it is literally just a peck on the lips so I guess that one is fine…’
So these are the replies we got so far,but we want this post to be as interactive as possible so please comment on what you think about this subject matter.